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Navigating Joy and Grief: Supporting My Daughter Through the Loss of Her Twin Brother




The emotional weight of holding both the joy of welcoming Layla and the pain of losing Rafael on the same day has been overwhelming. Their shared birthday has brought many inner conflicts, but it has also become a day of profound remembrance and love.


Layla has come to understand that she and Rafael share a birthday. We honor his memory each year by including his name on the birthday cake and incorporating a balloon to represent him. This year, Layla chose a blue star. For their first birthday, I gave Layla twin bunnies, each bearing the names Layla and Rafael. She has cared for both bunnies with much love and tenderness, a touching tribute to her bond with her brother.


We visit the cemetery every few months to clean Rafael's gravestone and change the flowers according to the season. Layla lovingly refers to it as the garden where we remember Daddy and Rafael, as my husband passed away two years later and is buried next to our son. These visits are sacred, providing a space for reflection and connection.


Being honest about my own feelings has encouraged Layla to speak openly about hers. She knows there is always room in our hearts for Rafael, and he will always be a part of our lives. Play therapy with a specialized therapist has been an invaluable tool in understandingand facilitating Layla's grief. It has reassured me that I am supporting her in the best way possible, allowing her to express her emotions and navigate her loss.


Trust your inner selves. Speak about the baby you lost. This openness will not hurt your surviving child; rather, it will help them understand who they truly are and allow them to grieve in their own way. Grieving should be a right, and through love, honesty, and remembrance, we can help our children carry both joy and sorrow with grace.








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